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🕑 Added 2023-12-05 19:37:28 +0000 UTC
There is no shame in sex
Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion often associated with negative self-evaluation; motivation to quit; and feelings of pain, exposure, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. I provided the simplest and most understandable definition of the feeling of shame from Wikipedia to avoid getting lost in psychoanalytic depths.
Shame drives us to think that something is wrong with us. We want to disappear and sink into the ground, curl up into a ball. Your cheeks burn, you put your hand on your forehead, your whole body is under stress. Shame is one of the most unpleasant feelings we encounter in real life.
Now let's talk about sex. Sex is a natural and necessary process for the survival of human beings (at least until we learn how to make children in test tubes). Sex is also a very enjoyable activity!
Feeling ashamed of our sexual desires is like feeling ashamed of wanting to eat or sleep. By not accepting the part of ourselves that desires sexual contact, we harm our mental health.
What can the feeling of shame be associated with?
•Traumatic experiences: experiences of sexual violence, experiences of psychological abuse with all the consequences. Self-rejection, lack of contact with one's desires, low self-esteem and so much more.
•Lack of sexual education or strict upbringing. If a child has never been explained that sex is natural and normal, then at a more mature age, they will perceive sex as a taboo and consider themselves bad because they want to violate it.
•Porn and beauty industries, which tell us that sex is only for the beautiful, sex is for the wealthy, sex needs to match certain standards. But in reality, it can be different.
The main thing is to find the true cause of shame. And why should I be ashamed, actually? What am I ashamed of?
If you want to dig deeper, you should learn new information about sex, talk about sex with other people, share personal experiences. Visit a therapist if you have experienced sexual violence.
It is important to remember: bene
