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Ethical Porn By Selina Nguyen
🕑 Added 2024-01-09 22:00:05 +0000 UTCEthical porn creates this incredible space for women and AFAB folks to learn more about our
bodies, our pleasure and our sexuality. There are whole worlds to be discovered both on
and offline now with women being at the centre more than ever before, and it is paving its
own path separate to our current cultural understandings of mainstream porn.
Mainstream tube sites as we know it are most commonly created by men for men. It is rife
with poor or unsafe working conditions for performers as well as perpetuating very limited,
aggressive and disembodied views of sex and often misogynistic attitudes towards gender
and sexuality. This kind of porn coupled with a collectively poor sex education and lack of
porn literacy means that not only are many people turning towards porn for education,
they’re also learning a lot of unrealistic standards and scripts around how sex ‘should’ go.
“Women or AFAB folks should be able to orgasm in 30 seconds or on command.” “Men or
AMAB folks should last for hours and should be rock hard all the time.” “We don’t need to
talk about consent because everyone automatically knows what everyone wants.” These are
really detrimental and even dangerous narratives that we can internalise as this invisible
standard of how we compare performance and measure our sexual experiences.
Ethical porn sites like Lust Cinema and PinkLabelTV are challenging these narratives by
centring pleasure that is whole-bodied and diverse rather than solely focused on genitals,
urgency and performance. From ASMR videos to a historical time period series, they centre
authentic sexual exploration, creativity and fluidity over creating high impact videos. This
creates a significantly different consumer experience because it invites us to slow down, to
connect with our bodies and our sexual partners, and to create our own definitions of
pleasure. Many of these ethical sites also showcase more diverse categories including
sexuality after menopause, trans, pregnancy or disability and champions representation for
those who do not look like the stereotypical bodies in mainstream porn, which is most of us.
Of course there is also more regulation when it comes to safer and fairer working conditions
for performers, and incorporation of consent on and off-screen - what’s sexier than that?
Also falling under the umbrella of ethical porn, the rise of audio erotica and re-emergence of
erotic novels are building more ways for us to explore sexuality and desire. These formats
are proving particularly impactful for women because it’s a more immersive and sensory
experience. Unlike visual porn, it simultaneously relies and fuels your imagination and
psychogenic arousal, which is arousal that starts in the mind. We can play with stories about
sexy fairies that look like Jesse Williams or a sapphic enemies-to-lovers plot with Victoria
Pedretti moaning in your ears – highly recommend. There are also new genres of pre-
recorded orgasmic meditations or guided masturbation sessions, which can be really useful
for women learning more about their bodies and pleasure. It really is a whole new world.
In amongst all the moaning and groaning, ethical porn provides a space for us to come back
to ourselves. By showing us sex and pleasure in this different light, we see ourselves in a
different light. We learn how sex should be – pleasurable, embodied, fun, creative and
explorative, we learn that we can want that and that we can co-create that with our
partners.
Photographer: @samueldavidsnaps
Model: Emmalynbransgrove
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