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Get to Know Me - Pride Month
🕑 Added 2023-06-15 17:59:34 +0000 UTCHi everyone! I wanted to do a little informational "get to know me" for pride month since my sexuality and gender are not something I talk about on any of my social media. This will be a brief talk about my past struggle, how I came to define myself the way I do now, and how I see my future.
As of right now, I define myself as (1) pansexual, (2) polyamorous, (3) Non-bianary/genderfluid, and (4) I go by She/They pronouns. Now that sounds like a lot, right? Super complicated? Well, not really. Let me break it down for you!
1. I am pansexual! Which means I'm sexually or romantically attracted to anyone regardless of their sex or gender identity. Aka, different gender/sex/personal identification doesn't stop me from developing feelings for someone.
2. I am polyamorous! This means I have open intimate or romantic relationships with more than one person at a time. This one can be pretty broad, depending on how it fits into your life and relationships. For me, I'm in a committed relationship, but as long as boundaries & communication are respected, both of us can pursue other people that interest us.
3. I am Non-bianary, but more specifically, genderfluid! This means I don't identify with a bianery gender (like male or female). I have a non-fixed gender identity that shifts over time or depending on the situation. These fluctuations can depend on how I feel about my gender identity or gender expression. Sometimes, I like to feel and present more feminine. Other times, I like to feel and present more masculine. I'll go into more detail on this in the next section!
4. I go by She/They pronouns! This means you can refer to me with She/Her or They/Them, whatever is easier or whatever you prefer! I even go by He/Him pronouns sometimes if I am presenting more masculine at that point in time. I go by all pronouns, but I do prefer She/They.
My sexuality is more present in my day to day life than my gender identity. Up until recently, I've ignored my gender identity altogether. I have had past situations where people close to me said I should seek therapy for wanting to identify differently than my birth sex. Other times, I've not been listened to, ignored, or bullied for simply wanting to use She/They pronouns. After putting "She/They" in my tiktok bio, I received replies to comment saying "okay she/they" as an attempt to invalidate my thoughts, opinions, and gender identity all in one go. I only had my pronouns up for a week before I took them down and decided to just use she/her because it was easier, and I didn't want to be treated differently. I've always been terrified to talk about my gender identity, especially online. Since I'm a cosplayer who is very feminine in an "e-girl" type of way, I don't want my audience to be affected by it, so I've stayed silent. But what better time to come out to my audience than during Pride Month? I told myself that I would be working on self-confidence this year, and I think this is a big step for me personally.
Thank you for reading, and if you have any questions at all or want some clarification on anything, please comment, and I'll do my best to help out!
~ Clover ππ
Comments
Jay-Kun
We are all very proud of you for coming out itβs a big step keep up the work you beautiful human being π
Clover Cosplays
I'm really glad you were able to connect with this! I'm always here for you! I shaved my head when I first came out too, it's a ton of fun! I hope you're able to do it soon enough <3
As someone who is pansexual who isn't out yet due to numerous reasons and I have to say that I would love to have the side of my head shaved but I loved reading this and keep being you no matter what
Kenneth Baker
Nice it took me awhile to about a year to come out to my parents as a bisexual
Clover Cosplays
Thank you so much πππ
Being open about sexuality and gender identity can be scary, but itβs so wonderful to find people who are comfortable sharing, and who help remove stigmas from them. Thank you so much for sharing π€π€π€Youβre absolutely amazing, I love ya!!!
