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Consent 101 Panel Outline
🕑 Added 2018-04-01 06:40:41 +0000 UTC Here's my outline/script that I used for my Consent 101 panel! Did this one with Butt Club for the first time at Sakura-con, excited to teach this more in the future. Apologies that the format got a little odd in the copy/paste.- Introductions. Go down the line and introduce ourselves. (5 min).
- Real Quick Trigger Warning!
- Break out your notebooks kids, you’re gonna want notes!
- Definitions.
- Consent - permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.
- Enthusiastic Consent -
- Coercion - persuading someone to do something by using force or threats.
- Consent is
- given freely, and can be withdrawn at any time
- Consent is NOT
- When one is inebriated
- Harrassment - Continuing to engage in behavior after it is clear it is unwanted.
- Assault - a violent physical or verbal attack
- Doing something without consent is harassment/abuse
- You need to have a direct, honest, freely-given consent to do something
- You ALWAYS HAVE the right to say “No, I don’t want to do that with you”
- Consent - permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.
- Why it matters.
- #MeToo (7 Mins)
- Started by Tanya Burke in 2006 - “ she was inspired to use the phrase after being unable to respond to a 13-year-old girl who confided to her that she had been sexually assaulted. Burke later wished she had simply told the girl, "me too".” [Wikipedia]
- Picked up by Alyssa Milano in 2017 [https://twitter.com/alyssa_milano/status/919659438700670976]
- Ask how many in the audience by show of hands (who are comfortable doing so) how many have experienced sexual harassment and/or assault
- Depressing Statistics! [https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence]
- 1 out of every 6 women have been sexually assaulted
- 3% (1 out of 33) men have been sexually assaulted
- 21% of TGQN (transgender, genderqueer, nonconforming) college students have been sexually assaulted
- Depressing Statistics! [https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence]
- Go down the line and each share a brief story of consent being violated
- So let’s fix the problem!
- No easy solution, we have to relearn a lot of shitty behavior
- Small actions and word choice influence our habits and mindset
- Calling out yourself
- Calling out your friends
- Bystander effect
- No easy solution, we have to relearn a lot of shitty behavior
- #MeToo (7 Mins)
- “But What About”... FAQs
- Nonverbal Consent - Reading body language, tips and tricks
- Mexican Dinner Consent [http://www.theferrett.com/ferrettworks/2016/10/you-dont-want-just-enthusiastic-consent-you-also-want-mexican-dinner-consent/] aka ‘Lukewarm consent’
- It’ll make my partner happy;
- It’s not like I’m actively against it, it just wasn’t my first choice of Things To Do This Evening;
- I’ll probably be more enthusiastic about this once we start.
- Skits! Start with the bad example and then the good.
- How to ask for a photo
- How to give compliments
- How to ask for a hug/handshake/light physical contact etc.
- How to invite a new friend to hang out, etc.
- Q+A : 10 min
- Quick wrap up - Who each of us are, where you can find us, and then a real quick photo before we shuffle off.
Comments
This is the first time I have heard of "Mexican Dinner Consent", and I have learned something today. So thank you! :)
Gregory Lotze
Have you been to any of the Consent Academy's events? I've heard good things, and have been thinking of supporting them.
